By K. Jong (13 years old)
No matter how old or strong we are, we inevitably have to face our fears. I am learning to face mine every day and I do have several fears such as the fear of failure, the fear of public speaking but my greatest enemy is the fear of negative criticsm.
Nobody likes being singled out for a harsh censure especially in public. When I don’t do well in my exams, unjustified faultfinding from my parents and teachers greatly depresses me. When I am being criticised, I become diffident. Personally, I already feel upset for not meeting my own expectations and when somebody else relentlessly hammered my failure into me, I hate it.
I recognise that my fear of unhelpful criticism is mostly due to the lack of self-confidence. Any kind of failure makes me less sure of myself and being under constant fire of damaging feedback is no fun at all. When a guy already feels down, he doesn’t need anyone else to make him feel worse.
Destructive criticsm is something that I could never get used to but I am learning how to deal with it. I try not to let harmful remarks hurt or damage my self-esteem but it is undeniably an uphill task. I foresee a lot of hard work ahead but I am going to remind myself daily, “Kenneth, you can do it!”